Comments on: How to Deal With People Who Are Impossible http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/ Anthony Baggett Online Mon, 08 Mar 2010 19:45:45 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Bo Swindle http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-117527 Bo Swindle Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:07:53 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-117527 My wife acts as if she is so untouchable. She acts like a child. We have a daughter together so its like I'm raising to kids. She is a spoiled brat and can not make it in the real world by herself. She acts like the worst kid I have ever known and yet she is 23. She gets a free ride and has all kinds of things to be thankful for but yet she isn't or atleast acts far from it. Its honestly like talkin to a jackass. Its ok for her to act like this and that and have a smart mouth with everyone including my parents which is so immoral and yet if she gets the same medicine then its not ok for someone else to do it back. I don't even fight with her anymore I just preach the good book to her and pray. There is honestly nothing else I can do but that. My wife acts as if she is so untouchable. She acts like a child. We have a daughter together so its like I’m raising to kids. She is a spoiled brat and can not make it in the real world by herself. She acts like the worst kid I have ever known and yet she is 23. She gets a free ride and has all kinds of things to be thankful for but yet she isn’t or atleast acts far from it. Its honestly like talkin to a jackass. Its ok for her to act like this and that and have a smart mouth with everyone including my parents which is so immoral and yet if she gets the same medicine then its not ok for someone else to do it back. I don’t even fight with her anymore I just preach the good book to her and pray. There is honestly nothing else I can do but that.

]]> By: katy http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-116460 katy Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:37:15 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-116460 my family members are impossible to deal with. My older sister is UPSET with EVERYTHING I do. . She does not let me move out either, she says she's afraid to lose me However she does not love me and impossible to deal with my family members are impossible to deal with.
My older sister is UPSET with EVERYTHING I do. .
She does not let me move out either, she says she’s afraid to lose me
However she does not love me and impossible to deal with

]]> By: nancy http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-104366 nancy Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:45:25 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-104366 Have been married over 37 yrs, lived the military life until husband retired 4mons. ago. He used to be palatable until a cancer scare l2yrs. ago, every yr. since then has gotten worse. Have had a lot of adversity on my own to deal with, health & family issues plus elderly relative. He starts every sentence with "I" & unless he gets what he wants, he throws a fit. Does not care about me or 2 grown kids. He is happy with things that are not alive, tools, garage, tractor, etc. He can yell one minute @ me & then be whistling in the cellar the next. I have seen a counsellor many times for my own well-being. He has seen a counsellor only once, going back again next wk., basically to learn how to keep peace in the family. He is very comfortable blaming me & making excuses for himself. I have devoted our entire married life to this family; used to love him but do not think so. There are no winners in divorce but have been so stressed out due to his behavior & other issues caused me to have arrthymia. Had many tests, all pointed to undue stress. He is very uncaring. Is he narcisstic, ADD/ADHD or both. Sometimes I am @ my wits end. He hates probems & all has been on my back for yrs. He never wanted kids so they were up to me to handle. Sad as it is, feel my life is a waste! Have worked way too hard just to walk away & lose. Any advice??? Have been married over 37 yrs, lived the military life until husband retired 4mons. ago. He used to be palatable until a cancer scare l2yrs. ago, every yr. since then has gotten worse. Have had a lot of adversity on my own to deal with, health & family issues plus elderly relative. He starts every sentence with “I” & unless he gets what he wants, he throws a fit. Does not care about me or 2 grown kids. He is happy with things that are not alive, tools, garage, tractor, etc. He can yell one minute @ me & then be whistling in the cellar the next. I have seen a counsellor many times for my own well-being. He has seen a counsellor only once, going back again next wk., basically to learn how to keep peace in the family. He is very comfortable blaming me & making excuses for himself. I have devoted our entire married life to this family; used to love him but do not think so. There are no winners in divorce but have been so stressed out due to his behavior & other issues caused me to have arrthymia. Had many tests, all pointed to undue stress. He is very uncaring. Is he narcisstic, ADD/ADHD or both. Sometimes I am @ my wits end. He hates probems & all has been on my back for yrs. He never wanted kids so they were up to me to handle. Sad as it is, feel my life is a waste! Have worked way too hard just to walk away & lose. Any advice???

]]> By: brian http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-96718 brian Wed, 16 Sep 2009 09:53:21 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-96718 They may be crazy, or maybe your personality doesn’t mix with theirs, but either way, you have to be very direct when you have to communicate with them They may be crazy, or maybe your personality doesn’t mix with theirs, but either way, you have to be very direct when you have to communicate with them

]]> By: Ed http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-95958 Ed Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:35:02 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-95958 Further to the above I think that a common experience with a truly impossible person who as I have pointed out may have a personality disorder is that they will constantly change their understandings of the moment and hence their demands.Make no mistake about the impossible person is very demanding,of time,space and understanding.It is quite likely that gratitude will be rare and it is unlikely that you will ever be right or that right will be ok for very long.Expect them to change their opinion quite frequently to the extent that you feel that you may have to be trying{its futile by the way} to be keeping track of where they are mentally at any moment.You may spend quite a lot of time either walking on eggshells conversationally with this type or attempting to appease. In my opinion a relationship with such people can be both exhausting and damaging to even the most stable of people and you can become absolutely drained both physically and mentally hence my advice to protect yourself. Further to the above I think that a common experience with a truly impossible person who as I have pointed out may have a personality disorder is that they will constantly change their understandings of the moment and hence their demands.Make no mistake about the impossible person is very demanding,of time,space and understanding.It is quite likely that gratitude will be rare and it is unlikely that you will ever be right or that right will be ok for very long.Expect them to change their opinion quite frequently to the extent that you feel that you may have to be trying{its futile by the way} to be keeping track of where they are mentally at any moment.You may spend quite a lot of time either walking on eggshells conversationally with this type or attempting to appease.

In my opinion a relationship with such people can be both exhausting and damaging to even the most stable of people and you can become absolutely drained both physically and mentally hence my advice to protect yourself.

]]> By: Ed http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-95957 Ed Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:13:22 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-95957 I think that it is worth considering that many people considered to be impossible people have in fact a personality disorder of some sort.This may not make it any easier,but may lend some perspective.If you have some sort of relationship with such a person it is quite likely that they will indulge in a great deal of projective blaming and you will be the target for no better reason than you are close.Be assured that it is not you and never has been and that the person concerned has issues that they have never dealt with except by denial and have usually a historical dimension.Quite possibly if you know them well they may have a great deal of guilt and feelings of inadequacy which become overwhelming for them when they consider the normal notion of responsiblity.I would not be surprised either to find paranoia either.Whatever you do,do not accept any of their blaming strategies.It is quite possible to be driven almost to the point of madness yourself by a well develped person of this type,Protect yourself. I think that it is worth considering that many people considered to be impossible people have in fact a personality disorder of some sort.This may not make it any easier,but may lend some perspective.If you have some sort of relationship with such a person it is quite likely that they will indulge in a great deal of projective blaming and you will be the target for no better reason than you are close.Be assured that it is not you and never has been and that the person concerned has issues that they have never dealt with except by denial and have usually a historical dimension.Quite possibly if you know them well they may have a great deal of guilt and feelings of inadequacy which become overwhelming for them when they consider the normal notion of responsiblity.I would not be surprised either to find paranoia either.Whatever you do,do not accept any of their blaming strategies.It is quite possible to be driven almost to the point of madness yourself by a well develped person of this type,Protect yourself.

]]> By: Trish http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-91786 Trish Mon, 17 Aug 2009 02:08:08 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-91786 NO ONE HAS MY PROBLEM, my husband Randy is 53 yrs young, I say young because he acts like a 3 to 5 yr old. Did not show this 20 some yrs ago when dating. He acts so child like, talks to the dog like Michale Jackson did with the chip.Baby like. Constantly baby talks, fish are not fish, they are fishies, bathroom is batroom,samwich is a samage. Throws tantrums, only breaking my things, not his, of course not. Name calling is a real treat for him, so it spitting his food and crumbs on the table. He's always spending money on stupid things that we do not need. Buys more food than we can eat. Can not buy a cup of coffee without buying something else. Flee market purchases are items that should of been thrown away by the seller, but he buys them. Destroying my things are a pleasure to him, but DON"T touch his things. I keep my house very clean, but he is a pig, stating "It's only a house", if I mess up his garage, he flips out. And his car has to be clean, bitches if my jeep is not washed---cause I'm CLEANING UP AFTER A PIG in the house mind you. Has a great job making 30 something a hour, great benifits, and constantly bitches and complains everyday. and it is a job that he enjoys doing. Have a terrific son 28 yrs old , going great has own business, home, everything, He bitches about him since he was young. But when he is around guys a work he brags about him. But runs him down at home to me. I am three yrs older than he is, he looks older and he calls me old hag,( I DO NOT BELIEVE THIS NOR HEAR HIS REMARKS, PLEASE NOTE) I have told him I do not know what mirror he is looking in to but he could make alot of money if he sold it! I was raised in a good Italian family, I met my husband twenty some yrs ago, he was not like this when I met him, ssooooo-- beware females, these inmature, self centered, childish, distructive,demeaning,ignorant, bullies are out there in disguise. """SO TO THOSE OF YOU WHO THINK YOU GOT IT BAD, YOU DON'T"""! NO ONE HAS MY PROBLEM, my husband Randy is 53 yrs young, I say young because he acts like a 3 to 5 yr old. Did not show this 20 some yrs ago when dating.

He acts so child like, talks to the dog like Michale Jackson did with the chip.Baby like.
Constantly baby talks, fish are not fish, they are fishies, bathroom is batroom,samwich is a samage.

Throws tantrums, only breaking my things, not his, of course not.

Name calling is a real treat for him, so it spitting his food and crumbs on the table.

He’s always spending money on stupid things that we do not need. Buys more food than we can eat. Can not buy a cup of coffee without buying something else. Flee market purchases are items that should of been thrown away by the seller, but he buys them.

Destroying my things are a pleasure to him, but DON”T touch his things.

I keep my house very clean, but he is a pig, stating “It’s only a house”, if I mess up his garage, he flips out. And his car has to be clean, bitches if my jeep is not washed—cause I’m CLEANING UP AFTER A PIG in the house mind you.

Has a great job making 30 something a hour, great benifits, and constantly bitches and complains everyday. and it is a job that he enjoys doing.

Have a terrific son 28 yrs old , going great has own business, home, everything, He bitches about him since he was young. But when he is around guys a work he brags about him. But runs him down at home to me.

I am three yrs older than he is, he looks older and he calls me old hag,( I DO NOT BELIEVE THIS NOR HEAR HIS REMARKS, PLEASE NOTE) I have told him I do not know what mirror he is looking in to but he could make alot of money if he sold it!

I was raised in a good Italian family, I met my husband twenty some yrs ago, he was not like this when I met him, ssooooo– beware females, these inmature, self centered, childish, distructive,demeaning,ignorant, bullies are out there in disguise.

“”"SO TO THOSE OF YOU WHO THINK YOU GOT IT BAD, YOU DON’T”"”!

]]> By: Chandler Nueces http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-91708 Chandler Nueces Sat, 15 Aug 2009 04:13:49 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-91708 Hi. my wife is that way. is very common to find this problem. I'm going to get a book on the topic because it left me thinking. Thanks. Great work! Hi. my wife is that way. is very common to find this problem.
I’m going to get a book on the topic because it left me thinking. Thanks. Great work!

]]> By: Healthy Relationship http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-89071 Healthy Relationship Thu, 16 Jul 2009 22:15:51 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-89071 Simple and the most effective trick is to turn face and ignore. While he/she eats your ear either plug in cotton or your earphones without letting know. Simple and the most effective trick is to turn face and ignore. While he/she eats your ear either plug in cotton or your earphones without letting know.

]]> By: Kerri http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/comment-page-1/#comment-86064 Kerri Sat, 27 Jun 2009 22:12:02 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-86064 Wow! So many people living with impossible spouses! i have no idea what your background is, but could I offer a suggestion? Pray! God can change anyone's heart. He is the hope in every hopeless situation! Good suggestions, Anthony. Wow! So many people living with impossible spouses! i have no idea what your background is, but could I offer a suggestion? Pray! God can change anyone’s heart. He is the hope in every hopeless situation!

Good suggestions, Anthony.

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