Comments on: How to Deal With People Who Are Impossible http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/ Anthony Baggett Online Wed, 07 Dec 2011 10:23:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Yanne http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-2416 Yanne Sat, 08 Oct 2011 04:50:45 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-2416 Read a lot of those article and i can feel your pain.I`ve been married to my wife for 6 years now and am ready to leave this relationship.We have a 4 year old daughter ,which is a very sad situation for her to be in, and she uses her against me all the time,i have to admit that i might be the best dad ever but i definitely think am not the worst too. People if you think that marrying these impossible people is the worst decision you`ve ever made,then it`s time to fix the Error,just leave them because they will drain you down,your misery is their happiness. Run for your life Read a lot of those article and i can feel your pain.I`ve been married to my wife for 6 years now and am ready to leave this relationship.We have a 4 year old daughter ,which is a very sad situation for her to be in, and she uses her against me all the time,i have to admit that i might be the best dad ever but i definitely think am not the worst too. People if you think that marrying these impossible people is the worst decision you`ve ever made,then it`s time to fix the Error,just leave them because they will drain you down,your misery is their happiness. Run for your life

]]> By: Wife http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-660 Wife Sun, 31 Oct 2010 04:18:32 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-660 Well I think honesty is the key and say it with love. Not ennorying the fact that ones actions towards you is damaging a relataionship. Perhaps ask them if they realise that they are saying and doing things a certain way and how you receive their communication. Some people just don't see how they say and do things is not communicating positively as to how they think they have communicated., Frustrating, yep frustrating especially if you have addressed the issue several times. sometimes a third person with communication qualifications can help. Someone looking from the outside in and more knowledgeable about communication techniques and disorders and help bring two parties together with more understanding. Well I think honesty is the key and say it with love. Not ennorying the fact that ones actions towards you is damaging a relataionship. Perhaps ask them if they realise that they are saying and doing things a certain way and how you receive their communication. Some people just don’t see how they say and do things is not communicating positively as to how they think they have communicated., Frustrating, yep frustrating especially if you have addressed the issue several times. sometimes a third person with communication qualifications can help. Someone looking from the outside in and more knowledgeable about communication techniques and disorders and help bring two parties together with more understanding.

]]> By: insurance tips http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-659 insurance tips Sun, 11 Apr 2010 03:04:14 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-659 Sometime you just have to let the bad aspects of your life “go” and after saying goodbye to a Selfish, demanding and destructive friendship today I cant help but feel, lighter, if not very sad ;-( Sometime you just have to let the bad aspects of your life “go” and after saying goodbye to a Selfish, demanding and destructive friendship today I cant help but feel, lighter, if not very sad ;-(

]]> By: Anthony http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-658 Anthony Sat, 03 Apr 2010 13:09:51 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-658 I wouldn't be surprised if your friends are right. I base this on the fact that you're asking a serious question, but are not willing to use your real name. Instead you choose something that everyone who reads this will know it isn't. To answer your question, I think you have to realize that <em>everything is not all about you</em>. Treat others as you want to be treated. When disappointments come along(and they will), handle them with dignity and never forget to show respect to others involved. If you do that, I doubt anyone can label you impossible. I wouldn’t be surprised if your friends are right. I base this on the fact that you’re asking a serious question, but are not willing to use your real name. Instead you choose something that everyone who reads this will know it isn’t.

To answer your question, I think you have to realize that everything is not all about you. Treat others as you want to be treated. When disappointments come along(and they will), handle them with dignity and never forget to show respect to others involved. If you do that, I doubt anyone can label you impossible.

]]> By: Clark Kent http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-657 Clark Kent Sat, 03 Apr 2010 03:12:37 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-657 This is so weird. I found this article, or an article similar to this and sent it to one of my friends because it seems like I have these kinds of problems with people all the time. It turns out, according to my friends, that it is in fact I who am the impossible person. What do you do if you are the person that is impossible? This is so weird. I found this article, or an article similar to this and sent it to one of my friends because it seems like I have these kinds of problems with people all the time. It turns out, according to my friends, that it is in fact I who am the impossible person. What do you do if you are the person that is impossible?

]]> By: Bo Swindle http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-656 Bo Swindle Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:07:53 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-656 My wife acts as if she is so untouchable. She acts like a child. We have a daughter together so its like I'm raising to kids. She is a spoiled brat and can not make it in the real world by herself. She acts like the worst kid I have ever known and yet she is 23. She gets a free ride and has all kinds of things to be thankful for but yet she isn't or atleast acts far from it. Its honestly like talkin to a jackass. Its ok for her to act like this and that and have a smart mouth with everyone including my parents which is so immoral and yet if she gets the same medicine then its not ok for someone else to do it back. I don't even fight with her anymore I just preach the good book to her and pray. There is honestly nothing else I can do but that. My wife acts as if she is so untouchable. She acts like a child. We have a daughter together so its like I’m raising to kids. She is a spoiled brat and can not make it in the real world by herself. She acts like the worst kid I have ever known and yet she is 23. She gets a free ride and has all kinds of things to be thankful for but yet she isn’t or atleast acts far from it. Its honestly like talkin to a jackass. Its ok for her to act like this and that and have a smart mouth with everyone including my parents which is so immoral and yet if she gets the same medicine then its not ok for someone else to do it back. I don’t even fight with her anymore I just preach the good book to her and pray. There is honestly nothing else I can do but that.

]]> By: katy http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-655 katy Fri, 22 Jan 2010 09:37:15 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-655 my family members are impossible to deal with. My older sister is UPSET with EVERYTHING I do. . She does not let me move out either, she says she's afraid to lose me However she does not love me and impossible to deal with my family members are impossible to deal with.
My older sister is UPSET with EVERYTHING I do. .
She does not let me move out either, she says she’s afraid to lose me
However she does not love me and impossible to deal with

]]> By: nancy http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-654 nancy Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:45:25 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-654 Have been married over 37 yrs, lived the military life until husband retired 4mons. ago. He used to be palatable until a cancer scare l2yrs. ago, every yr. since then has gotten worse. Have had a lot of adversity on my own to deal with, health & family issues plus elderly relative. He starts every sentence with "I" & unless he gets what he wants, he throws a fit. Does not care about me or 2 grown kids. He is happy with things that are not alive, tools, garage, tractor, etc. He can yell one minute @ me & then be whistling in the cellar the next. I have seen a counsellor many times for my own well-being. He has seen a counsellor only once, going back again next wk., basically to learn how to keep peace in the family. He is very comfortable blaming me & making excuses for himself. I have devoted our entire married life to this family; used to love him but do not think so. There are no winners in divorce but have been so stressed out due to his behavior & other issues caused me to have arrthymia. Had many tests, all pointed to undue stress. He is very uncaring. Is he narcisstic, ADD/ADHD or both. Sometimes I am @ my wits end. He hates probems & all has been on my back for yrs. He never wanted kids so they were up to me to handle. Sad as it is, feel my life is a waste! Have worked way too hard just to walk away & lose. Any advice??? Have been married over 37 yrs, lived the military life until husband retired 4mons. ago. He used to be palatable until a cancer scare l2yrs. ago, every yr. since then has gotten worse. Have had a lot of adversity on my own to deal with, health & family issues plus elderly relative. He starts every sentence with “I” & unless he gets what he wants, he throws a fit. Does not care about me or 2 grown kids. He is happy with things that are not alive, tools, garage, tractor, etc. He can yell one minute @ me & then be whistling in the cellar the next. I have seen a counsellor many times for my own well-being. He has seen a counsellor only once, going back again next wk., basically to learn how to keep peace in the family. He is very comfortable blaming me & making excuses for himself. I have devoted our entire married life to this family; used to love him but do not think so. There are no winners in divorce but have been so stressed out due to his behavior & other issues caused me to have arrthymia. Had many tests, all pointed to undue stress. He is very uncaring. Is he narcisstic, ADD/ADHD or both. Sometimes I am @ my wits end. He hates probems & all has been on my back for yrs. He never wanted kids so they were up to me to handle. Sad as it is, feel my life is a waste! Have worked way too hard just to walk away & lose. Any advice???

]]> By: brian http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-653 brian Wed, 16 Sep 2009 09:53:21 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-653 They may be crazy, or maybe your personality doesn’t mix with theirs, but either way, you have to be very direct when you have to communicate with them They may be crazy, or maybe your personality doesn’t mix with theirs, but either way, you have to be very direct when you have to communicate with them

]]> By: Ed http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-652 Ed Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:35:02 +0000 http://antbag.com/how-to-deal-with-people-who-are-impossible/#comment-652 Further to the above I think that a common experience with a truly impossible person who as I have pointed out may have a personality disorder is that they will constantly change their understandings of the moment and hence their demands.Make no mistake about the impossible person is very demanding,of time,space and understanding.It is quite likely that gratitude will be rare and it is unlikely that you will ever be right or that right will be ok for very long.Expect them to change their opinion quite frequently to the extent that you feel that you may have to be trying{its futile by the way} to be keeping track of where they are mentally at any moment.You may spend quite a lot of time either walking on eggshells conversationally with this type or attempting to appease. In my opinion a relationship with such people can be both exhausting and damaging to even the most stable of people and you can become absolutely drained both physically and mentally hence my advice to protect yourself. Further to the above I think that a common experience with a truly impossible person who as I have pointed out may have a personality disorder is that they will constantly change their understandings of the moment and hence their demands.Make no mistake about the impossible person is very demanding,of time,space and understanding.It is quite likely that gratitude will be rare and it is unlikely that you will ever be right or that right will be ok for very long.Expect them to change their opinion quite frequently to the extent that you feel that you may have to be trying{its futile by the way} to be keeping track of where they are mentally at any moment.You may spend quite a lot of time either walking on eggshells conversationally with this type or attempting to appease.

In my opinion a relationship with such people can be both exhausting and damaging to even the most stable of people and you can become absolutely drained both physically and mentally hence my advice to protect yourself.

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